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Family Help Darlington CIO

If you or someone you know needs help?

or advice about domestic abuse and/or refuge accommodation.
We are here to listen and help.
Please call our helpline on 01325 364486

Our helpline can give support, help and information to anyone suffering directly or indirectly from domestic abuse.

Over 40 years of saving lives

You are NOT to blame

You have the right to live free from violence and
the fear of the violence

 

You can get help and support:
  • Whether you have children or not
  • Whether you want to leave your partner or not

Reasons why women find it difficult to leave a violent partner or relationship

  • They think he will change
  • Afraid of what he might do
  • Do not want to leave the home environment
  • Do not want to upset the children
  • Nowhere to go
  • Cannot afford to leave
  • Too much in love with him
  • Do not want to end the relationship
  • Think the violence was a “once off”

Refuge Service Provided

We offer a confidential service and can provide safe temporary refuge accommodation.

The Refuge Workers offer emotional and practical support.

You can talk to someone in confidence about how you feel. We will listen and can inform women of options available.

‘Family Help Darlington CIO’ recognise children’s needs. Whatever the circumstances the majority of children suffer if there is violence in the home. They may be physically, emotionally or sexually abused. Most hear the abuse and often witness their mother being abused. They can also be used as part of the abuse. Refuge facilities, activities and support provided by the Children/Young People’s Workers responds to such needs.

“The wonder of it is not that women find it hard to leave the scene of the violence but that so many find the courage to do so” Victim support report, 1992

Women often want the violence to end not the relationship.

Despite the impact of domestic violence or abuse many people, maybe you yourself cannot understand why women stay in violent or abusive relationships. Abuse can come in many forms including name calling or put downs, not being allowed to see family or friends, withholding money, actual or physical harm, sexual assault, using jealousy to control YOU and blaming YOU for his violence. Victims of domestic violence are usually women but not always the case.

The main thing is that YOU are not alone, one in four women suffer or have suffered domestic violence. It is not easy to seek help and YOU may feel frightened ashamed confused and guilty.

It is not easy to accept or understand that a loved one can act so terribly towards you. Maybe because you cannot explain your partners behaviour you may assume that you are to blame. YOU ARE NOT.

The most important thing to do is tell someone. The prospect of leaving a violent relationship can be as frightening as staying. Your partner may have threatened that if you leave or tell anyone about the violence then your children will be taken away. Social services will not take children for this reason. We understand that even after you leave you may still be at risk.